Abstract
<jats:title>Abstract</jats:title> <jats:p>Have you ever heard “I love you” after a first date? Or maybe you felt that you found “the one” after an evening’s conversation? Have you felt the rush of love send you to the moon only to crash back down to earth? There among us who seemingly fall in love over and over all have something in common: they are high in a trait called emophilia. Emophilia describes the tendency to fall in love fast and often. Although emophilia is not a disorder, it can affect our lives in profound ways. Emophilia shapes our perceptions, decisions, and judgment when it comes to our romantic choices and partners. People high in emophilia jump into relationships, commit to partners quickly, and feel the rush of love faster than others, whereas people low in emophilia may never feel these things. Emophilia is distinct from related concepts such as anxious attachment and sociosexuality and predicts unique and consequential life outcomes and behavioral patterns. Those high in emophilia are also likely to stray from a committed relationship, are drawn to narcissistic partners, and may even find themselves in trouble with the law because of a romantic partner. Emophilia is associated with evolved cognitive and emotional biases toward seeing only the best in current and potential partners and predicts real-life outcomes associated with marriage, relationship formation, and sexual behavior. We all develop love at different speeds, and this book will tell you why.</jats:p>